You can’t always tell a person has an eating disorder simply by looking at them. And you can’t tell a person has recovered from an eating disorder simply by looking at them.
Your body is not an “after”. You are simply continuing your process of becoming.
So let’s get real for a minute. I used to believe I would never recover from my eating disorder. I thought it was possible for everyone else except for me and that I would never truly be free from the thoughts that consumed me. I wasn’t sure I would ever be “normal”. But with a lot of support and persistence, I achieved full recovery. Unfortunately, way too many of my peers either lost their fight or continue to struggle or live in quasi recovery.
Unfortunately sometimes seeking out support online can result in receiving harmful information.
Please remember that what worked for one stranger on the internet may not work for you (or anyone else). Just because Joe cured his depression simply by rubbing his body with coconut oil and chanting underneath the full moon, doesn’t mean that will work for you.
We may miss our illness, our addiction, another person, or a living situation. We know going back to that thing would hurt us, but still we think about going back. But it’s just a thought and that does not mean we have to act on it.
As someone who’s long ago left the world of dieting and disordered eating behind, I’m still shocked every time I hear references to dieting. It’s all around me everywhere I go. At the doctor, at work, at the grocery store, at the gym, at home, and on my social media feed. At this point, it’s truly impossible to avoid diet culture. Since it can be so easy to be sucked back into diet culture, especially in the beginning, let’s explore some ways to challenge the culture so you can remain a non-dieter, intuitive eater, and lover of self.
In recovery, we learn to separate ourselves from our illnesses. We create new identities for ourselves based on who we were before our illness, but sometimes we can’t remember back that far. Or sometimes we’ve changed so much that person no longer feels like who we are. Not a problem! Just consider who you want to be. What do you want your ideal self to look like? You get to create your own narrative.