We’ve all probably experienced a fear of missing out (FOMO) at some time or another. Social media makes it so easy to see all the things other people are doing that we aren’t. It also allows us to see all the different foods other people are eating (or just taking pictures of) that we might feel jealous of because we believe only people in certain bodies are able to eat certain foods, our food doesn’t look as good, or because we have allergies/intolerances that prevent us from eating certain foods. In our daily lives we may see certain seasonal foods we feel we can only have at certain times of year, we’re at an event and our favorite food is being served, or everyone else around is having the same thing and it looks good. Food FOMO is going to come up. How could it not? But let’s take a look at some ways to help manage the feelings that arise so it doesn’t ultimately lead to feeling worse about ourselves.
We’re one full week into the new year and if you’ve set a New Year’s resolution, you may already be eager to see if you’ve had success. But how do you measure success now that you’ve finally decided to ditch dieting and a resolution for weight loss?
When your goal was to lose weight, an easy barometer of your success was the bathroom scale. The scale tells you whether you’re moving in the right direction, or whether you need to keep working harder towards your goal.
But what not that it isn’t about the weight? And therefore, not about the number on the scale.
Ordinarily, of course, I’d say “no” to dieting. Diets don’t work and they make us feel bad about ourselves. But a low FODMAP diet is actually a tool to help you discover what foods might be triggering certain gastrointestinal symptoms. It is not designed to be followed long-term. And it is not a tool for weight loss or weight maintenance.
This time of year, the media is all about how to maintain your weight this holiday season or minimize the holiday eating “damage”. These articles or news pieces essentially give you all the diet tips you’ve heard many times before. They teach you how to spend the whole holiday meal planning to eat enough to satisfy your cravings, but not too much that you might end up gaining weight. The tips are well-meaning. After all, most people are worried about holiday weight gain and then try to go on a diet come January 1st.
But what if you didn’t need to worry about your weight? What if you could just enjoy the holiday season with family and friends? What if holiday gatherings were about all the things you’re grateful for?
Have you ever felt like nothing really matters? Like nothing you do will ever make a difference and your life doesn’t mean anything? That everything is completely random and life is cruel and good people don’t get what they deserve?
So whether it’s from the latest terrorist attack, a natural disaster, a depressive episode, or a personal situation, the last thing on your mind is eating. When nothing matters, why should you bother nourishing yourself?
When you were younger, it may have been as simple as whenever your belly rumbled, you got yourself a snack. Your body was telling you it was hungry and you fed it in response.
Now, we may not even be attuned to our body’s hunger signals. We may have desperately tried to silence these signals through dieting and deprivation. Or we may keep ourselves full at all times so we never have to experience the emptiness of hunger.
We may associate hunger with binging. That’s because when we get overly hungry, we’re ready to eat just about anything and we want all of it. We may not trust that we’re going to eat again, so we feast. This is one reason why it’s important to listen to your hunger and feed yourself before you get too ravenous.